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Two out of three victims of rape often know their attacker. However, sometimes these attacks come out of the blue. One victim finds the courage to share her story.
Dolores Ramirez has been able to put feelings down on paper after struggling to admit what happened one summer day four years ago, waiting at a bus stop near St. Louis and Eastern.
“I had just turned 16, I was going to summer school,” she said. “I noticed he kept trying to talk to me, asking my name, ‘How old are you?’ you know. It didn't process that he was a rapist.”
She also didn't realize he would figure out where she lived. But he did, and he suddenly appeared outside her home.
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“I opened the door, and I see him,” Ramirez said. “ ‘How'd you know where I was living?’
“So I went outside and closed door and said what are you doing here. ‘You gave me the address, you remember?’ trying to confuse me. No, I was smarter than that. No I didn't. He tried kissing me, and my grandma opened the door.”
That sent him away, but he returned and he was more aggressive.
“I never felt like I was going to be harmed,” Ramirez said. “It was him, and I pushed. Fighting him is what turned him on, so if I stopped fighting he would get off.
“So I fought to get it over with. It was terrible … it was terrible. It was only 10 to 15 minutes that it happened, but it seemed like a lifetime.”
Ramirez’s attacker left her shocked and violated, she didn't tell her mother until the next day. Pressing charges was too painful, she says.
“I told my mom, ‘If you want me to get better, if you want me to be OK, close this case please.’ To go to trial, to see him again, I didn't want to go through that. I figured to let it go and not let him control my life.
Four years later, she still recovering, she says, and writing helps.